I am an introvert. And no, introverts do speak. And they are not mute. We just wait for our mind to bring up something to say which might suit the conversation we are in. Ask us about things we like and you might need a chair if you're standing because we ain't stopping.
There's this simple thing. Extroverts runs on dopamine and introverts on acetylcholine. You might find fun in loud music, crowded gatherings or concerts but we on the other hand get exhausted by so much exposure.
The things which excites you, might be overinvigorating for us forcing our brain to shut down. Like not literally! But we just stop being in the moment. Honestly, we wish to be in our bed with a book or something. Most importantly, being anti-social. Or rude. Or shy.
It has nothing to do with being an introvert. Just because we need to get out of a party or a gathering sooner than others, doesn't means we are disliking it or hating people. See socializing exhausts us. Yes it does. It is not a facile job for us. Most of the time some of us rehearse conversations in our head.
Trust me, we are doing everything just fine in our head. But in reality, our whole inside is nudging our brain to leave. It's too much. If you see us getting lost somewhere between any conservation, that means the conversation does not hold any interest for us and may be we are having some really important meeting with someone inside our head.
So next time when you go out with your introvert friend:
a) don't introduce them to some stranger and then leave them alone with them.
b) Don't ask them to change themselves or work on it. We cannot fix ourselves, it's not a disease.
We seriously love your excitement and the fun you spread around. And we will hangout with you everytime, ofcourse after taking proper breaks in between. Like a month or two?
Love,
An introvert.
There's this simple thing. Extroverts runs on dopamine and introverts on acetylcholine. You might find fun in loud music, crowded gatherings or concerts but we on the other hand get exhausted by so much exposure.
The things which excites you, might be overinvigorating for us forcing our brain to shut down. Like not literally! But we just stop being in the moment. Honestly, we wish to be in our bed with a book or something. Most importantly, being anti-social. Or rude. Or shy.
It has nothing to do with being an introvert. Just because we need to get out of a party or a gathering sooner than others, doesn't means we are disliking it or hating people. See socializing exhausts us. Yes it does. It is not a facile job for us. Most of the time some of us rehearse conversations in our head.
Trust me, we are doing everything just fine in our head. But in reality, our whole inside is nudging our brain to leave. It's too much. If you see us getting lost somewhere between any conservation, that means the conversation does not hold any interest for us and may be we are having some really important meeting with someone inside our head.
So next time when you go out with your introvert friend:
a) don't introduce them to some stranger and then leave them alone with them.
b) Don't ask them to change themselves or work on it. We cannot fix ourselves, it's not a disease.
We seriously love your excitement and the fun you spread around. And we will hangout with you everytime, ofcourse after taking proper breaks in between. Like a month or two?
Love,
An introvert.
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